If these allegations are true, the question arises as to what is the halacha here.Is this a violation of the Cherem Rabbeinu Gershom not to read someone else’s mail without their permission?While the LA Shidduch shadchanim work primarily with Persian Jews in the Los Angeles, they have established networks with observant Jews in other cities and communities as well.(By Rabbi Yair Hoffman for 5tjt.com) It was a story that was broken by Avital Chizhik Goldschmidt of the Forward, but first appeared on a Facebook page called “Frum Girl Problems.” Allegedly, a shidduch oriented entity advertises itself as having over 3000 quality shidduch resumes – but has obtained these resumes without the permission of the singles involved. The article quotes a single woman named Serena – who received an email from the entity that announced that her personal information had been added to a website she had never heard of – she was shocked.Yes, we should encourage that physical cleanliness factor.If you value this dating prospect or prospects you meet, you must be clean and take care of your appearance and try to eat healthy foods and exercise.
In this author’s view it may be an abnegation of the Torah principle of ‘V’ahavta l’rayacha kamocha – you should love your neighbor as yourself.
The examples there show that Gneivas Daas is violated even if there is a non-financial deception.
WORSE THAN LYING In regard to the verse of midvar sheker tirchak stay away from a false matter, there is a three way debate as to how we understand this pasuk.
To be fair, some have claimed that the organization is a legitimate one that just wants to help singles – and that it is lashon hara to say anything against them.
Nonetheless, the website is still up and if there is a halachic problem involved – it should be taken down immediately.
He adds Gneivas Daas, deceiving others; sho’el shelo midaas, borrowing without permission; and the third – a violation of the Gemorah in Yuma 4b that one cannot reveal information unless specifically given permission to do so.