Mixed signals in dating
10-Feb-2020 14:02
It could be that he's not really after a relationship, but after making a new friend.
When my now-husband and I were still dating, we briefly broke up at one point.You may think he's got a crush on you since he wants to spend so much time with you, when, in fact, all he wants is after companionship, without any romantic undertones. You can respect his wishes - swallow the disappointment that he's not after you and go with the friendship route - after all, maybe something more will bloom eventually.On the other hand, if you think you are in love, try flirting and acting as if you're building a relationship with a shy guy - eventually the signals will get through and he will be the one to pick if he's after a friend or a girlfriend.Don't be too pushy, that might scare a guy-unsure-of-himself off.
If more than a week or two passes without him reestablishing the contact, well, it is time to confront him about it, tell him you miss him and ask if he plans on keeping up building a relationship with you or not - from that point on, the ball is in his court, and there's not much you can do about it.
Recently, I received a question from a reader about dating someone who is often "hot and cold," totally present and seemingly committed to her in some instances, and emotionally unavailable in others.